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Monday, December 12, 2011

Monday Motivation: Forgiveness

"With forgiveness, I take the first step
towards letting go of all things
that no longer serve ~ any purpose."

It's human nature to place blame for our feelings of angst, frustration, and disappointment in others because they didn't behave as we expected. Placing blame enables us to make our feelings of discomfort the fault of someone else, instead of owning those feelings. We can focus on something tangible... like being angry at them for their ruining our lives!

With the holidays ~ and the approaching new year ~ come expectations of what we think life should be - the families and life we wish we had. The Norman Rockwell Christmas that should have been. The goals we didn't meet. The dreams that didn't manifest. It's so much easier to make all that the fault of someone else.

People do impact our lives. They make decisions and do things that we don't believe were in our best interest. Recently I had an electrician pull a scam on my office wiring, causing me thousands of dollars. I'm not rolling over, but I'm also not living into the anger and allowing him to ruin my day. I know that there is a lesson to be learned here, and I'm listening.

To give anyone else power by being angry at them, is enabling them to control your life. I choose to be in control. I choose not to allow my mind not to focus on the negative of what other people do, or don't do. I don't have enough time or energy. There is only one way to live a healthy life: Forgiveness.

Forgive those people that haunt your brain. Let go of the anger for their taking advantage of you, lack of support, not behaving or being the people you think they should have been. When those people cross your mind, mentally send them a blessing, a wish, or a kind thought that they find their path. Then let it go. Talk about a healing moment.

This post is dedicated to those who are facing disappointments in others, frustration of how they think the country, health care, or businesses should be run, who should support them, anger with their family and friends... and all those who are finding the holidays a difficult time.

Take a moment and forgive those you feel have harmed you. Then let it go. Forgiveness doesn't make them right, it just enables you to live a mentally and physically healthy life.

Happy Holidays!

XOX Karlene


  1. Karlene san,I am sorry about scam!I wonder why there are people doing such a things!
    I have been feeling that killing anger being inside my mind is very difficult,and I am still looking for the way how can I release negative energy such an anger.Thank you for sharing your experience and importance of forgiveness!!I like your point of "we don't have time to think negative thoughts and don't want to use energy for them". I really agree with you.That is waste of time and energy.
    Have a great holiday and flight.

  2. Beautifully, and wisely, said. Forgiveness empowers us, not those we forgive. Thank you for the reminder. :)

  3. Thanks for your post Karlene.. I've come to visit your page whenever I need a bit of inspiration. I got that today. In my case its not forgiving others, sometimes my problem is forgiving myself for being human just like everyone else. :) You post helps with that too! Happy holidays and safe flying!

  4. Thanks for this.
    This has actually made me fully go for my apology to a person I had a conflict with in the past. Because I need to let it go. I've done my part, it's up to the other person to forgive or not. But for me, I've let it go.
    And I feel a million times better.

  5. It was an eye-opener (and a heart-opener) to me when I finally learned that part about forgiveness not making the forgiven person right, but being about me letting it in and letting it go. How great to do that and be able to take a deep breath of fresh air. Thank you for this great post.

  6. Hi Jun, I'm thinking we'll help you work on that when you come to visit. We'll see you soon!

  7. Thank you Heather! We all need that reminder.

  8. Nissa, you are so right. Sometimes forgiving ourselves is the most difficult, but equally necessary. Thank you for the nice comments.

  9. Ramiel, that is great. You did your part, and you can't make anyone else behave the way you want. Your friend will figure it out, or they won't. But you're feeling great and that is wonderful!

  10. Thank you Linda, I think we should all take a deep breath of air. It feels good. Thank you for the comment!


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