"With forgiveness, I take the first step
towards letting go of all things
that no longer serve ~ any purpose."
towards letting go of all things
that no longer serve ~ any purpose."
It's human nature to place blame for our feelings of angst, frustration, and disappointment in others because they didn't behave as we expected. Placing blame enables us to make our feelings of discomfort the fault of someone else, instead of owning those feelings. We can focus on something tangible... like being angry at them for their ruining our lives!
With the holidays ~ and the approaching new year ~ come expectations of what we think life should be - the families and life we wish we had. The Norman Rockwell Christmas that should have been. The goals we didn't meet. The dreams that didn't manifest. It's so much easier to make all that the fault of someone else.
People do impact our lives. They make decisions and do things that we don't believe were in our best interest. Recently I had an electrician pull a scam on my office wiring, causing me thousands of dollars. I'm not rolling over, but I'm also not living into the anger and allowing him to ruin my day. I know that there is a lesson to be learned here, and I'm listening.
To give anyone else power by being angry at them, is enabling them to control your life. I choose to be in control. I choose not to allow my mind not to focus on the negative of what other people do, or don't do. I don't have enough time or energy. There is only one way to live a healthy life: Forgiveness.
Forgive those people that haunt your brain. Let go of the anger for their taking advantage of you, lack of support, not behaving or being the people you think they should have been. When those people cross your mind, mentally send them a blessing, a wish, or a kind thought that they find their path. Then let it go. Talk about a healing moment.
This post is dedicated to those who are facing disappointments in others, frustration of how they think the country, health care, or businesses should be run, who should support them, anger with their family and friends... and all those who are finding the holidays a difficult time.
Take a moment and forgive those you feel have harmed you. Then let it go. Forgiveness doesn't make them right, it just enables you to live a mentally and physically healthy life.
Happy Holidays!
XOX Karlene
